Thursday, July 09, 2015

3 Must Haves for Navigating Impromptu Conversations: Guest Blog by Stacey Hanke

How many impromptu conversations have you found yourself in this week? What would you do in these situations?

  • You’re asked a question you weren’t prepared for during a meeting.
  • You’re approached by an executive who wants a quick update.
  • You need to sell your idea in five minutes rather than the 30 minutes you were promised.
  • While delivering a prepared presentation, you begin to run out of time while your listeners lose interest.
  • You’re networking at an event.

Speech-bubbles-300x240Most of our conversations are impromptu – yet most individuals believe that if they know what to say and had time to prepare, they’re effective communicators. We don’t have opportunities to prepare for every conversation. As leaders you’re expected to effectively speak off the cuff. Even if you’re prepared while delivering a presentation, you need to have the ability to adapt your message on the fly without skipping a beat.

Three valuable must-haves for communicating with confidence, credibility and influence during an impromptu conversation:

1. Trigger words. Prepare, think and speak in bullet points rather than paragraphs and run-on sentences. When your notes include full sentences, it’s too difficult to quickly gather your thoughts when you refer to your notes. Bullet points will trigger your thoughts, save time and keep you on track.

2. W.A.I.T. Why are you talking? When you forget what to say, the biggest mistake you can make is to continue torturing your listeners while you ramble. Trust your competence and PAUSE. The most powerful skill you can have at the ready is an ability to pause, which allows you to adapt your message on the fly and meet your listeners’ expectations. When you pause, you will be in control of:

  • situation
  • what you want to say
  • what your listeners hear and understand

3. Listen to the Why. Listen beyond your listeners’ words to hear and understand what is important to them. Why would they be interested in your topic? Why are they there? Why is your message important to them? Tap into your listeners’ answers to these questions so that your message resonates with them.

During your next impromptu situation, communicate like it’s your best game-day ever.

If you enjoyed this guest blog, by Stacey Hanke, hop over to her website and leave a comment. She’s a brilliant speaker, author and influence game changer. Check her out. 

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Monday, July 06, 2015

Be AH-Mazing: Learn How to Break the Rules


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shutterstock_192023183Australian’s are known to be friendly, laid back and they work hard… and play hard.

As an Aussie I am not good with authority or rules. My whole corporate life I had a reputation as someone who looked at things differently, who questioned everything and who could creatively find an alternate solution. I still do this today, if you give me a rule I often wonder how I could go around it or challenge it (not my best characteristic however I don’t ever want to settle).

Leaders of influence need to break the rules… occasionally. Don’t settle for the way things have always been done. Don’t adhere to all the unwritten rules of your role, your industry or your community. Approach decisions with childlike awe and wonder and respect and enquire if there is an alternative way to do something.

Most of my corporate career I heard ‘Neen that’s just not the way things are done around here.’ And I’d simply ask ‘why?’ What could you do differently today?

Some rules are for our safety – don’t break those! My talented artist and author friend Jason Kotecki recently launched a book Penguins Can’t Fly – click here to see our video. He and his wife Kim, are on a mission to cure Adultitis – I love it.

Conduct a pilot – if you aren’t sure if a project or idea will be successful, conduct a pilot first. Assess the results and make some adjustments. Not everything has to be black and white, try a pilot first. People can be more open to your suggestions if you pilot something first.

Opt out – in Jason’s book he has a great call to action to opt out of things that aren’t serving you. I suggest if you find activities unproductive or they don’t bring you joy – question if you still need to do them? Life has obligations however some of us have rules we follow we have inherited from others and we don’t question, or people in our lives that we could set free. Where could you opt out today?

Think creatively – question unwritten (and declared) rules to spark creatively and find alternative solutions. Allow your team freedom in meetings to brainstorm alternate ways to serve your clients, market your products or sell your services. Allow those who have the most contact with clients, customers or members to create alternative solutions to do more, be more and share more. Where could you introduce more creative freedom?

Impactful leaders choose to show up, stand out and create more significant moments that matter.

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Monday, June 22, 2015

Be Ah-Mazing: Activate Your Brain Book Review


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Be Ah-Mazing: How to be a Better Speaker

speech-speaker-keynoteA favorite part of my business is as the opening keynote speaker at large corporate or association events. Often people approach me afterwards and say ‘I want to do what you do!’ or maybe they say ‘can you give me more ideas on how to be a better speaker’.

 

You might be a professional speaker (so you probably know of these already) or maybe you speak as part of your role at work; you might enjoy these resources. Here are a few of my fave resources:

 

Books

How to Win Friends and Influence People – an oldie but a goodie!

Talk Like TED  – fantastic summary of the top TED talks and what makes them great

Power Cues – fabulous resource on body language and cues for influence

 

Resources from the National Speakers Association

Paid to Speak book by National Speakers Association

 

Speaker Magazine online – published monthly with valuable articles.

 

Voices of Experience App – a monthly audio magazine and I love listening to previous year’s interviews also.

 

Slide formatting

A brilliant resource for your slide creation is Slide:olgy by Nancy Duarte

 

If you want to hire someone to make over your slide deck we love Reflective Spark  Paul Vorreiter

 

Speech Coaches

Lou Heckler is my favorite speech coach.

 

Short Talk expert Hayley Forster can help you prepare for TED like talks that are short.

 

Nick Morgan of Public Words also has a great e-zine I subscribe too called Public Words..

 

TED talks I love (there are too many to list however here are two great ones)

 

Amy Cuddy TED Talk

Elizabeth Gilbert TED talk

 

What would you add to this list? Love to hear from you.

 

For more tips and ideas how you can break into the world of professional speaking, check out my video Be Ah-Mazing: How to Become a Professional Speaker on YouTube, then subscribe to my channel for more tips to live an Ah-Mazing life!